We’ve said it for years, “Consistency is the key!”
You can set expectations, determine consequences, and set up plans. All of these things can be in place but if no one actually follows through consistently it won’t work. Kids need to know that we mean what we say, and we say what we mean. If parenting actions are not consistent, kids keep testing and the same old parenting itches get itchier and itchier.
It’s not just about the itch, actually. It is also about the reactions to the itch…ignoring, yelling, blaming, punishing…all of a sudden that itch has been scratched until it is bleeding.
Perhaps that last analogy went a bit too far. Here are a few others that might be a bit less painful to read:
If we want to improve our fitness, going to the gym once a month likely won’t make much of a difference. Exercising consistently builds strength over time.
If we want to improve our dietary health, eating a well-balance meal every so often likely won’t move the needle. Creating a plan and sticking to it makes healthy eating easier to do and is more likely to show results.
Parenting is no different. Getting clear on what you want to do and building a plan are great first steps. In order for it to work, you need to stick to that plan; know what you will say and how you will follow through. This is how we manifest Parenting Power (the ability to effect change).
If you need help scratching your itch effectively, we can help you build a plan that makes it easy to stay consistent. It’s what we do. We’ve been doing it for almost 16 years!
Whether it is sleep, homework, mealtimes, technology, kindness, manners, chores or academics, consistency is the key!
This week, ask yourself these questions:
Do my parenting actions match my parenting words?
Do my words and actions match my values?
Where and how can I be more consistent as a parent?
Where have I been consistent and what is the result?