Back to school success in 5 clear steps
They’re heading back and now’s the time to get them ready. Whether it is their first day ever or just the first day for this grade, here are 5 things to consider:
1. TAKE A GOOD LOOK AT YOUR KID – a lot has changed since last June and definitely since last September. Check and see what your child can do independently. Do you really need to help her pack up her back pack (no) or get his lunchbox ready (maybe)? When we do for our kids what they could do for themselves, we are demeaning them: taking away their meaning. Our actions tell them that they can’t do it on their own and decreases their sense of self.
2. UNLOAD YOUR PLATE – What will you require your child to do this year? Will your daughter get her own breakfast ready? Will your son make his lunch or sweep the kitchen floor while you finish off the lunches? Get an idea of one or two chores that your child will take off of your plate. Ultimately, this will leave you feeling less stressed and a bit more patient.
3. TAKE TIME TO TEACH – Now that you know what to hand off to your kids, take the time to teach it. Break the chore down into smaller tasks, create a check list if necessary and work with them as they begin to feel more capable. Don’t load them down with tons of new chores – just one or two. That way, you’ll be setting them up for success. Start now so that they can practice when there is no school and feel capable when they head back.
4. SLEEP MATTERS – Check out how much sleep your child needs and find a way to make that happen. Sleep affects our bodies and our brains. Making it a priority will be a great gift to your child as well as an important habit.
5. ROUTINES HELP – Whether it is getting out the door, getting to dance class, getting homework done or getting kids to sleep; creating a routine with your child will make things easier on everyone. Ask your youngster to help you make a list of the tasks required (Getting to dance class: fill water bottle, pack bag with shoes, and water bottle, change into gear). Write down an order, how long each thing will take, as well as who is responsible for each task (get the child helping as much as possible). Decide on how you will cue tasks and what the consequences are for following plan and not following plan. Knowing all of this will help to keep everyone calm in the heat of the moment.
Have a great year!