Baby Steps to Self Esteem
We know the importance of Self Esteem for our children.
In our recent webinar, Polly Young-Eisendrath (author of the Self Esteem Trap) told us that we don’t necessarily need to love ourselves in order to start teaching our kids – that’s one more excuse out of the way.
Here are some suggestions for simple first step:
1. See the other people in a situation – how small you are (how small your own problems really are).
2. Change one thing you are doing for your child that s/he could be doing for her/himself.
3. Get rid of victim language in your life ( it’s not my fault…I can’t help it if…You never treat me well…
4. Ask your child how s/he will share a strength and who s/he will ask for help about a weakness.
5. What words will you use to stop rescuing your child?
6. Pick one real life situation the you won’t over praise.
7. Make a list of people who supported your child in achieving a success.
Starting here with baby steps makes sense. The truth is, when we use the tools that help our kids to develop self esteem, we are also using respectful discipline and setting our kids up to become responsible, independent human beings – it’s called parenting.
If you haven’t had a chance to register for the webinar with Polly Young-Eisendrath, author of the Self Esteem Trap, you can do that here.