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5 Tools for Travelling with Kids
Parenting Power Admin July 17, 2015 No Comments

5 Tools for Travelling with Kids

Whether across the province or the country, in a car, boat or plane, travel with children can be an “adventure” before you even leave your driveway. In our experience with our own families and the thousands we have coached, the most important thing to bring along on any trip is realistic expectations for your kids and for yourself. Once those are under control, the rest of the trip will fall into place.

Why are expectations so important? Unless you’re very unique, the perfect family vacation in which everyone spends all the time together and everyone gets along isn’t going to happen. Realistic expectations help us to set all family members up for success both in the planning stages and in the day to day realities of your trip. Knowing what your kids can and will do and knowing how you will respond can be helpful when things are going as planned and absolutely essential when the trip falls off the rails. Here is a checklist of things to take into account when planning your trip and when you are on your way:

1. Know what your kids can handle.
Do your kids love to walk and sight-see or are they more interested in the hotel pool and the closest playground?

How do they do with sleeping in a new environment?

Are they keen to try new foods or do they only eat what they know?

Better to plan for these things in advance rather than letting them attack when you finally arrive at your destination. If your kids love the hotel pool but you want them to see the sights, plan to divide up your time – go see the sights in the morning and then hit the pool after lunch. Bring along familiar items to help your kids get to sleep in the new bed and account for time-changes as well. Pack healthy foods that you know your kids will eat or pick them up at a local grocery store. Waiting for restaurant reservations when your kids are starving can be a recipe for disaster.

2. Involve your kids in planning your trip
If your kids are preschool age or younger, show them pictures of the hotel and some of the main attractions you will see.

If your kids are school-age, get them involved in researching the area or ask them what they want to do.

Teens who are reluctant to join the family trip may feel better if they have an opportunity to plan a portion of the experience; several mornings or an event. This gives the teen some power in the situation.

Plan how you will solve disagreements that happen on the trip BEFORE you leave. Will you flip a coin? Will you act as a family, taking turns and staying involved in all activities?

Keep your own excitement level realistic as well. We want our kids to look forward to the trip but if we keep building it up to be an amazing event, the actual trip may leave everyone feeling a bit disappointed. While you are on the trip, be aware of power-struggles that arise when one family member wants to do one activity and the others don’t. This is a perfect opportunity to involve your kids in the problem-solving process. “Ok, we’ve got a problem here. I want to go to the Science Museum and you guys want to go shopping. How can we solve this together?” Maybe two groups head in two directions for the morning and meet back at the pool after 2.

3. Assign Realistic Responsibilities based on your kids’ experience and abilities
If they are new to packing a suitcase, involve them in making the list of things to take and be sure to check after the case is packed

Involve them in the choice of items to take in the carry-on BUT please check it before you leave the house. It is not fun when airport security finds a toy gun in your child’s bag!

If your kids are old enough, get them their own pack to carry water, sunscreen and a book. REMEMBER – if they can’t do it, you know who will be juggling 3 back packs on your walk.

4. How much together time can your family really handle?
If your kids don’t get along very well, create opportunities for them to do things separately on holiday

If you are staying with relatives on your trip, plan to be out of the house at least once every day to give everyone some down time.
Plan in some time for one parent to be with the kids and the other to go off and explore, read a book or shop

5. How are you going to respond with respect when things don’t go according to plan? Plan to keep some tricks in your back pocket so that your behavior doesn’t add to the chaos.

If you are in public, get you and your misbehaving child to a private place (bathroom, change room, behind the building) where you won’t feel that other adults are judging you.

If it is parent versus child, turn it into parent and child versus the situation.

Express your feelings calmly: I am feeling frustrated… I am disappointed with how this is going… I know we can make this work…

Don’t fight emotion with logic. If any family members are emotional (scared, excited, mad, disappointed) use empathy to get through the emotion and get everyone to a place where they can calm down (perhaps in separate rooms). Once things are calm, then work on solving the problem

It is no big surprise that little things blow up into big things on vacation. Sleep is often compromised, junk food and excitement are often present in higher doses than before and everyone is in cramped quarters. Knowing what you will say without blaming and shaming your kids will keep you feeling capable about how to handle bumps in the road when they occur.

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